Realism 101 - Expect Screw Ups

Every day, I expect life to screw up my plans.

That's not a very optimistic way of looking at it, but it has helped me to manage my unrealistic expectations. What it does is leaving more space for the unforeseen, unknown and error. That space is needed. Not leaving it accounted for 40% of self-inflicted dis-stress and dis-ease over the past years. The remaining 60% were caring too much what others think about me. And that's a story for another day...

Every day, life will screw up my plans

In Jiu Jitsu, you will likely have a plan how to submit your sparring partner.
And he will have his.
Therefore, he will try to screw up your plans. Has to. You are doing the same.
Now you can try and muscle it through and and waste a lot of energy or you can observe and look for your opening elsewhere. You will likely not find it where you thought you would, but it it could well be the opportunity you needed to succeed and submit.

Every day, life will screw up my plans.
Leave room for the unforeseen, unknown and error.
That is life, better live with it.